Patchara exited iDateLadyboy and turned off her laptop. She looked around the coffee shop and smiled to herself. “Only another five days until x-mas and Sam will be here in Bangkok. Hmm…, I really can’t wait to meet him for the first time.” She looked at her watch. “Oh…., is that the time? I’d better hurry. The Ladyboy support group starts at 2.00pm, don’t want to be late for that.”
Twenty minutes later, Patchara rang the bell on the door of the conference room where the meeting for Ladyboys was being held. Suddenly, someone tapped her on her right shoulder. “Hi Patchara, how are you?” smiled Aum, another Transgender woman. “I hear you are doing the talk today. What’s the topic?”
“Hi Aum, I’m fine thanks. Hope you are too. Actually, I’m going to talk about being safe when dating, especially at x-mas time. Something important to all Ladyboys. Especially in modern society when there seems to be so much prejudice and discrimination against us.”
“Sounds good,” replied Aum, as the two women went onto the medium sized conference room in a hotel in central Bangkok. “Look forward to hearing what you have to say.”
There are many support groups for Ladyboys
There were over fifteen Ladyboys in attendance. The convenor, Miaow, called the meeting to order and welcomed all of the Ladyboys. “First of all, happy x-mas, it’ll soon be here. Well, I see we have some new faces here today,” she began. “Please pass it on to your friends and colleagues that all are welcome here. No matter which stage you are at with your transition. No matter what your sexual preference is, we are pleased that you have taken the time to join us. Now, without further ado, let’s welcome Patchara who is going to give a short talk. It’s entitled: “A Ladyboy’s guide to safe dating.” Over to you Patchara.”
Patchara stood up and walked to the small stage at the front of the room. “Thanks for the welcome everyone, and best wishes of the season. I’m going to keep this talk brief but my message is important to everyone here. The two main things I want to say are:
- if you are looking to date a man for a long-term relationship join iDateLadyboy. It’s free and easy to join and there’s a great chance you’ll find the man you are looking for;
- always practice safe sex! Practice as often as you like but always make sure you know something about your partner’s history before you let him get inside as it were.”
Some of the group laughed at Patchara’s last comment, but she continued, “No, I really mean it. Just because we Ladyboys can’t get pregnant doesn’t mean we should take unnecessary risks in catching any STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) from any of the men we sleep with!
Anyway, back to the main point of my talk.
Online dating is really the best route for Ladyboys to find a man
I wasted so much time looking for a nice genuine man in bars, restaurants or night clubs in Bangkok. I was beginning to despair that I’d never find the right person for me. Sure, plenty of men would talk to me wherever I went, and I like to think I’m attractive enough. But most would “run away” as a soon as they knew I am Trans-pinay. Some became aggressive saying I was trying to trap them into sex or into giving me money. I’ve been called a whore, a prostitute and a she-male all for simply being me. They didn’t know anything remotely useful about my background, but they still discriminated against me.
Yet, I’ve found the men on iDateLadyboy to be far more knowledgeable about Ladyboys. They also know that all of the women on the site are Trans, thereby eliminating any misunderstandings or possible unpleasantness when they find out.
It’s great to be able to sit in the comfort of your own home with a laptop and chat with as many men as you feel comfortable with. Especially at this time of year when the x-mas traffic is so bad. At first, I started talking with about five or six men then gradually reduced this number to two or three. Then, down to one man who I felt was a great, almost perfect match for me.
All the times we talked, I was getting to know more and more about my potential life partner. His likes and dislikes, his goals and objectives. And why he likes Ladyboys so much. What really attracted him to T-girls? In addition, I shared some of my life story and experience with him. I love the fact that we could share so much online and get a feeling if he was genuine. To see if he really has empathy for the challenges we Trans-pinay face.
Ladyboy dating on iDateLadyboy
The end result of all of this? Sam, the man I met on iDateLadyboy and who I have been chatting with for the last 5 or 6 weeks will be here in Bangkok on Friday, just in time to celebrate x-mas. Honestly, I can hardly wait, my stomach is quivering with excitement already.”
“Good for you,” someone called out from the audience. Someone else clapped. “Write the link to the site on the board behind you. Next to the picture of Santa Claus.”
So, I wrote: iDateLadyboy “And, oh, I will follow my own advice about safe sex too!” I said, smiling, as I turned back to face the audience.